We're having a dilemma because apparently Nick and I aren't capable of making decisions (especially REALLY important ones)...Here's the deal. When we got married we decided that once we started having kids, we would space them 2 yrs. apart. So we were planning on getting pregnant this September or October, but...we can't decide if we should wait another year or not. I don't know if it's better to wait because I could lose a lot more weight in a year or just keep losing until I actually get pregnant within the next couple of months and then lose the rest after the baby comes...One reason I don't want to wait is because the sooner we're done having kids, the sooner I get to go back to school. Another is I really like the age difference with Madelyn and Andrew. The reasons for waiting are losing more weight and of course saving more money...So any opinions about spacing between kids, please let me know what you think...
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The only thing I don't like about the age difference with Xander and Ashton (21 months) is that Xander wasn't (and still isn't) potty-trained. I think having a sib close to your age is pretty cool. But it is all up to what you feel is best. There is a benefit to working on your health before having another baby. I started working out before I had Ash and continued during (although now I have come to a screeching halt), resulting in a pregnancy with almost no problems at all. With xander I was on partial bedrest the last 2 months. So you have to weigh the pros and cons, I guess. Good luck and have fun trying!
My opinion, which means only something to me, is that you pray about it and He will let happen for the both of you, when it's a right situation. Whatever happens, money will always be a need, yes there are will be more difficult times than others, but when it comes to children, money will be more gone than here. But no matter what, money always comes in. And when you are doing your part in raising your family, the Lord will see your needs and he will fulfill them, no doubt. Just pray and you'll get your answer. Sorry my answer is lame, but that's what I always do when I'm in any dilemma.
I think 2 years is just about right and I think siblings that are closer in age get along better but Natalie is right about 2 babies in diapers but I think that is a small price to pay. You are the only one that can tell if you are feeling up to the challenge of getting PG again healthwise but I think you lose weight being PG (i have..haha) and you also lose when you have the baby and that could be something you can capitalize on, I am going to as well because I always lose and I want to kick my bad habits so it will stay off and more will come off as well. Being overweight does have a lot of health issues and I am sick of it for myself because I want to feel good enough to play with my babies. I suppose in the end it really is up to you because only you know how you feel and how it will impact your family financially. I do know the Lord provides and always will so those kinds of things shouldn't really be barriers if we have faith. Its a really hard thing to do though, I know first hand! haha I love you and I know you will make the best choice - good luck!! :)
Well, my doctor told me that 3 years is actually best for mom and kids/siblings. That gives mom more time to recover and the kids seem to do better. Kait and Josh are 2 years apart, which is fun, and Dallin and Josh are 3 years apart which was really nice too. I don't know what it was...the no breast feeding with Dallin or the 3 year space between him and Josh. Whatever it was, I had a MUCH easier time with him as a baby than I did with Josh as a baby. Now look, here I am trying 2 1/2 years apart, I'll let ya know how this goes.
I will say, it is nice to know I'll be done after this one! Good luck with your decisions and way to go on your weight loss! The slower it comes off, the longer it stays off (so I've heard). I want to join in as soon as I have this baby too.
Oh I just read the Rasmussen Forever comment and I really like that idea too. We need to always involve the Lord with our decisions and whatever will be, will be!
Sonja,
Congrats on the weight loss. I know it's been a struggle, but the hardest struggles have the best rewards. As far as kid spacing - I use to worry so much about this too. Having a still born in the middle didn't help that worry either. Now that Jack is here and he and Sadie are 4 yrs and 9 months apart I realize it was silly of me to worry so much. She is the best sister ever, and even though they are so far apart I know they will be close. I agree with your friends - God is the one who knows - pray and ask him, but at the same time don't worry if they are farther apart than you plan. Life rarely turns out the way we "plan" Heavenly fathers "plan" for us is often very different than our "plan" for us! We both know I have learned that lesson the hard way many times, so try not to worry - it will work out! You might like how Andrew and Mady are spaced, but you also don't know any different yet - you might like them a little farther too!
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